As a military spouse, you have one great fear. The fear that shall not be named. This fear is always there, but it likes to rear it’s ugly head when your spouse is not around to calm it and make it go away. For some, it’s always present, and for others, it only comes out from time to time, as we are able to hide it and talk it down. I fall in the latter. That fear is there, but I also know there is no point worrying myself sick about something I have no control over. An unexpected knock on the door can make me think the worse, but overall, it’s a fear I keep buried.
We have so many other fears though. Fears that get carried from duty station to duty station. Some go away after each move, while some never fully go away. While some of these fears can also be things we love, the fear is still there. For instance, so many of us fear orders and PCSing, but at times, we love it.
We fear leaving a home/town/duty station that we love.
We fear leaving our friends.
We fear having to pull our kids out of school in the middle of the year.
We fear making friends at a new duty station.
We fear what housing will look like.
We fear starting all over.
We fear that first FRG meeting.
We fear any new social event period.
We fear talk of deployments.
We fear holidays alone.
We fear explaining to our children where their other parent is.
We fear doing it all by ourselves.
We fear leaving our jobs.
We fear asking for help.
We fear the deployment gain.
We fear orders.
We fear having to start the job hunt over again.
We fear leaving military life.
For many of these, not all of them obviously, it’s just as easy to say I love new social events and meeting new people or I love the thought of new housing and how I can decorate it. It’s all in how we look at things. We have enough fears in our lives, so why not turn some of them into optimistic opportunities.