My son is 4…actually 4 1/2. He is in theory potty trained, but still has accidents. Not the rare, freak occurance accidents, I’m talking daily. He says it’s because he is too busy and therefore doesn’t want to take the time to go. I know that he has full control of himself, he just doesn’t choose to use it. He is in preschool 4 mornings a week. He knows that if he has an accident at school, he will no longer be able to go (not entirely true, but being potty trained was a stipulation to being accepted). We have tried incentives and rewarding him, praising him, and then gone to the other side and punished him. Nothing seems to work. I do sometimes wonder if it is a deeper issue. In the past 2 years, his father moved, I remarried, and had his sister. He doesn’t act like anything bothers him though. He loves his sister and his stepdad (when he isn’t being punished anyways) and his dad was never around that much for it to make a huge difference. Any ideas to anything else I can try?
Anyone in the military knows all about the wonderful workings of government run healthcare. I am extremely happy to have my healthcare paid and provided for as a benefit of my husband’s service. However, my experience is that one can never get a same day appointment, there is a consistent shortage of doctors, and care and treatment is not always up to par. A person must get a referral to see a specialist or a doctor outside the area (some locations require a referral just to be seen outside of the military base), and referals are not easy to get.
I had one child in a military hospital and one in a civilian hospital. The experience in the civilian hospital was on a completely different level. They paid attention to me, answered my questions, and kept me informed of my options and what was going on. The military hospital didn’t tell me too much of what was going on and ignored any concerns I had.
I took my 4 year son to the ER a few months ago. He was having severe stomach pains. I described the syptoms to the nurse who relayed everything to the doctor. They didn’t do a urinalysis, any blood work, or do any tests on him. The doctor diagnosed him with a retracted bowl, based on what I said. We were then sent to a hospital 2 hours away for treatment. Within an hour of being at the new hospital, tests were run and it was confirmed he had an appedicitis. That was never even mentioned by the military.
When I was pregnant and pre-eclamptic (and extremely swollen), the nurse yelled at me for gaining weight! I was 9 months pregnant and had gained 60 pounds, a bit much, but she had no cause to yell at me! Half of the weight was water retention!
I realize that no one is perfect and we all have our horror stories, but if gov’t healthcare takes over years down the line as I believe it will, then these problems will be the norm.
I can’t recall an exceptionally good instances seeing a doctor. The more I think about it, the more I think of bad things!
Care to share your stories?
I never thought I would jump on the blogging train. I’ll soon have too much time on my hands and hopefully this will help. My Marine is off to Okinawa. The kids and I are not going. We have our reasons and this is the best decision for our family. I don’t want to vent to hubby and get him down when he has a job to concentrate on, so I’ll voice my concerns here, along with anything else that interests me!