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Love is not rude. Yet, how often are we? How often do we not listen, not pay attention, not focus, get annoyed, heck, be annoying, to those we love? Daily, whether we intend to or not. Why do we do this? Why can’t we put down our phones and listen and focus on our spouse or kids? Why can’t we be more understanding? Why can’t we realize that maybe we aren’t the only ones who have had a bad day?
Today’s dare was to hear 3 things from your spouse that irritates them or makes them uncomfortable. Things you do, that not just annoy, but more deeply bother them. I thought long and hard about this. It was hard to come up with a legitimate list of things. There are obviously things my husband does that bother me. More than he knows. More than he realizes. Or maybe he does realize and he just doesn’t respond. In thinking about this though, I realized that the majority of things he does that annoy me, are things related to his PTSD. How can I be annoyed with him for things that he can’t help? How can I be annoyed with him for not wanting to have family outings to loud, crowded places when he hates crowds?
I have a tendency to avoid confrontation, so I don’t usually say anything. I’ll get really annoyed and mad about something, it will all just continue to build up and then it will either die out to come back at at later time or I’ll eventually blow up. Not the best way to handle things, but this is how I’ve always been. It’s hard to change after so many years. I need to know what I do that bothers him though. How else can I fix it? In the same sense, he needs to know as well.
This is part of The Love Dare, a 40 day project to strengthen your marriage and bring you and your spouse closer together. You can take the Love Dare Assessment to see what needs to be worked on. Follow along at Taush.O for all the bloggers and the dares.