In the fall of 2007, I met a man. I didn’t think too much of him at the time. I was a single mom and had been by myself pretty much since little man was born. I wasn’t big on the whole going out thing, so I didn’t really date or have an opportunity to meet guys. Actually, I hadn’t gone on an actual date since my divorce.
I was working for a loan company at the time. We did a lot of military loans. This guy’s paperwork came through and I didn’t think much of it. He was just transferring a loan to our office from a different state. The guys I worked with liked to give the applications from single guys to me. I guess they thought they were helping. All that morning, one of my co-workers kept telling me that I needed some relations, if you get my drift. He thought it would put me in a better mood. My co-workers then decided that this guy would be the one. They had decided before he came in to sign his paperwork that he would be my soul mate. I’m not even sure if I believe in soul mates. I laughed them off, but then he showed up. He was hot. Seriously hot. Their suggestions suddenly had appeal. He came right in, shook my hand, flirted with me through his paperwork, and left. As soon as he left, my co-workers said I should call him because he would have ‘relations’ with me. I said heck no! I wasn’t about to call someone about that! As we are having this conversation, the phone rang. I answered it and it was the guy. He asked me for my phone number. I’m crazy signaling to my co-workers that it’s him. Good timing on his part.
A couple weeks later, he took me on a date. I had a nice enough time, but I honestly thought he was an asshole. He wasn’t to me, but I told my sister that he had ‘assholish tendencies’. She convinced me to give him another shot. We casually dated from them on. Then came our little surprise. She was born in February of 2009. Somewhere in all that, he realized how great and wonderful I really am. We put off getting married at first. I think we both wanted to make sure it was the real thing and not just the excitement of a baby. We were married in February of 2010 at Ft. Leonard Wood. Not long after, we were off to Okinawa!
We didn’t do it the conventional way, but it has worked out far better than I ever could have dreamed! My husband will agree with me on that one. We’ve had our ups and downs along the way and we continue to have our issues as we both work through his PTSD and TBI’s. It’s not always easy, but we are in this for the long haul and we do the best we can.