I love my husband and I am not looking forward to him leaving in a couple months….but, then I get to cleaning. I start thinking about how I can’t wait for him to leave so I have:
less to pickup everyday (no socks left on the floor!!)
don’t have to worry about dinner
less grocery shopping (the kids only want chicken nuggets and hotdogs anyways)
less errands to run in general (no random calls about things he forgot to take to work)
This translates to more time for me to do useful things like:
quality television programming
mastering my sewing machine
catching up on reading
and finding fun things for his care packages
I really don’t want him to leave, but I can’t help but think how I won’t have to do this or that when he is gone. Am I the only one or do other ladies think the same thing about their husbands leaving?
He doesn’t leave for 3 more months, but I’m upset about it. He is going to Okinawa first and will then deploy from there. 2 years without him and I feel like I just found him. I try not to think about it, but that is almost impossible. I’ve done good without him seeing my cry or seeing me get upset. I know he feels bad for leaving us here. He would rather we go along, but what is the point if he is going to be deployed? Why not just leave me here where I am comfortable and have friends and help. This is just so stinkin’ hard!!! We made this decision together and I know it’s for the best and it is the best way to accomplish our money goals, but still.
Since I still haven’t found a job, I’ve been trying to find things to keep me busy once he leaves. I’ve always wanted a sewing machine, so I found and bought a used one. That should take some time to actually get something good going there.
We had a rare date night last night. We drove a few hours to see a concert (great show in a small, intimate venue) and left the kids with my sister (free sitter and free place to spend the night! Love you, sis!). We had a GREAT time! It is rare that we get to go out by ourselves, but we make the most of it when we can. I know sitters can be hard to come by. What does everyone do when they get a chance to go out alone, without spending a lot of money?
My son is 4…actually 4 1/2. He is in theory potty trained, but still has accidents. Not the rare, freak occurance accidents, I’m talking daily. He says it’s because he is too busy and therefore doesn’t want to take the time to go. I know that he has full control of himself, he just doesn’t choose to use it. He is in preschool 4 mornings a week. He knows that if he has an accident at school, he will no longer be able to go (not entirely true, but being potty trained was a stipulation to being accepted). We have tried incentives and rewarding him, praising him, and then gone to the other side and punished him. Nothing seems to work. I do sometimes wonder if it is a deeper issue. In the past 2 years, his father moved, I remarried, and had his sister. He doesn’t act like anything bothers him though. He loves his sister and his stepdad (when he isn’t being punished anyways) and his dad was never around that much for it to make a huge difference. Any ideas to anything else I can try?